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Oh no… What have you done! What are you doing! Stop talking! Stop yelling I am not deaf! Stop jumping! Stop running! Stop throwing your dinner! STOPPPPPP! HERE COMES THE BREAKING POINT!

Breaking point for mommies which may lead to crying as well. We, mothers, may feel bad for ourselves. These ‘don’t’ and ‘stop’ commands are not really working. Really?

Talk to yourself

Is it working? Obviously No; because we are not giving them commands, we are actually wrongly reading the signals from our innerself. They are behaving the same they daily do. But we are not in proper shape today. We need little rest. But we are thinking in this way… Am I bad mommy? But my friend is doing so great; she is quick and well organized.

The Comparison

This habit must be completely diminished from our lives. We are mommies,not robots, hence we don’t have identical software…

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How not to lose your sanity being a stay at home mom

If you are overwhelmed, the house is messy , sink full of dirty dishes , kids screaming if your answer is yes then this post is for you.

First of a all I want you to take deep breaths and take a step back . Everything can wait but your health cannot. Your body and mind needs to be healthy.

I am going to share my favourite ways to save your sanity.

Plan ahead :

Pretty basic isn’t it ? Everyone knows you should plan ahead but with kids and home life is not perfect. Things happen. Anyhow , keep a journal a notepad or your phone whatever suits you to help you stay on top of your schedule.

Keep tons of healthy snacks

A hungry baby is a cranky baby and who needs a crying baby when you are on verge of loosing your mind. Always keep snacks available always. Just in case you are sick, tired or cannot keep up with healthy cooking 24/7 you can still feed your kids.

De- Stress

Everyone has to deal with different kinds of stress. But for stay at home moms it’s like dealing with stress from the moment you wake up till you doze off for sleep. You cannot pour from an empty cup. De-stress by whatever means you want to let it be music, favourite movie, talking to a friend , going out of the house , taking a long bath whatever works for you .

Being active :

We often tend to let go of our needs and put our kids first. So I cannot make it to the gym I simple do not have time for that . But that is no excuse being active will help you enormously so go for a walk/run/ weights/cardio whatever you can do even from home. But getting out in the fresh air is best.

Date nights:

Spending one on one time with your partner is extremely important. Set a reminder on your phone for date night and rekindle the love. It’s important for you two to have a break.

Sharing responsibility:

You are a stay at home mom doesn’t mean all kids related activity is to be done by you . Involve your partner with kids and help him bond with his children.

Ask for help :

You are not a super woman. If you need help please ask for it. People around you won’t know unless you tell them.

Take it slow:

The days are long but the years are short. I know it can be frustrating and stressful to deal with little humans but remember they are little only once . They won’t remember a perfectly clean home, perfectly dressed mom or home cooked food. Not that you overlook all this but I don’t want you to miss out on the joys of motherhood. Nothing has to be perfect let it be imperfect and sink in these moments.

where I had been

Hello my lovely friends in this blog world. I know I had been gone for quite a long time although I  had plenty of ideas to share and write.  But if you are mommy of school going kids you will know how it is like towards the end of the year.

My anxiety levels were really high and I couldn’t recognize at first so I was dragged in the vicious circle of anxiety and depression. Anyhow so its Christmas time and we have took off and trying to travel and enjoy little bit of family time. Get ready for upcoming travel post a lot of tips and tricks on travelling with kids.

It feels so good to finally unwind and come out of the routine. I missed my blog. writing is something which comes naturally to me and I love doing it.

struggling with mental illness and surviving a family life is a hard balance. But little things in life matters a lot. My son graduated from preschool and is going to  big school next year yayyyyy!

A little secret I had been very emotional looking at my son, watching him grow. I know it sounds stupid but maybe not for a mother who once used to hold him in her arms.

I cannot wait for the next year to start , watch my son grow and make new friends in the new school.

Hope you all have lovely holidays. Merry Christmas.  

My lifeline

If you have been through depression and/or anxiety you would know how it’s like. You just cannot function no matter how hard you push yourself.

I know I am anxious and depressed I can listen to my negative voice inside me telling me I am not good enough . But I am lucky I had learned to recognise the signs and take actions on it. So I quickly recognise this is not me this is anxiety talking.

Today is Monday morning and I am finding it hard to pull myself together . But I have two little kids I have to feed them and be there for them . I cannot allow the demons aka depression and anxiety to take over me.

I had my breakfast and a big cup of tea in hope I will feel better , yeah right lol. Then my older said mama please play Kiki song on your phone.

My boys really enjoy the song so I played it and we all three had a good laugh and dance. There it is my lifeline: MY KIDS❤️. The happy , cheeky boys . I don’t need anything else to make me feel better.

Their laughter is enough for me to kick anxiety’s butt. I got off the couch wore my RED lip colour and went on with my usual daytime chores.

I am dragging myself through the day but that’s okay because at least I am trying. I am trying to brush my hairs I am trying to cook and clean . I am trying to survive. That’s all we need one step at a time to recover from anxiety and depression attack.

I am feeling so lucky I have a reason to go on with everyday because of my kids . No matter how I feel I try to put a mask on to become a batter mommy for them and that’s what keep me going.

If you are depressed, please know that it’s a phase it will pass yet will be back again but anxiety/depression doesn’t represent you. Don’t give up.

Early tooth decay, prevention and treatment

Hello my dear readers, if you have young kids at home it’s a good possibility that you are looking for tips and tricks to keep your little ones teeth healthy. I am not a doctor but I am just a mom whose son’s teeth had to be extracted at the age of three under General anesthesia. Yes you read it right at the age of THREE!

So it’s safe to say I have attended several dental visits and a lot of reading material on tooth decay. I am determined to share my experience so other parents can benefit from my first hand experience.

Let’s get to the point now, when my kid was just eight months old I noticed his front four teeth turning grey.  I went to the child specialist who said just give him multivitamins and there is nothing to WORRY about.

Yeah right as if i could sit on it and not do anything. So I saw a dentist who took a look at my son’s teeth and told his teeth enamel is damaged and we just need to clean his teeth and visit again after six months.

Fast forward, we moved to another country new place no idea of anything. Eventually I was able to see the dentist and by that time my son’s teeth were crumbling apart. I must Tell You we didn’t give him chocolates and lollies and stuff like that but he used to nurse overnight.

After couple of visits it was decided they will extract the teeth to avoid the adult teeth getting the infection. Let me tell you that was very hard on me to accept.

I was heavily pregnant and my husband called me that doctors said they need to extract the teeth I went into shock and started having cramps ,now looking back it feels silly but at that time I was anxious .

Anyhow, the time came and we headed to hospital with our newborn in my arms. Sending my toddler in operation theatre was nerve racking but HATS OFF to all the hospital staff for taking such a good care of my boy.

If you are going through the same phase then my advise to you is ‘Go with the flow’. Trust the doctors . My kids appetite was dramatically improved after his extraction.

There are somethings which can be done to avoid tooth decay in first place or to slow the decaying process if the damage has already started .

  • Start cleaning your child’s teeth as soon as the first tooth appear
  • Use toothpaste for kids older than eighteen months
  • Brush twice a day after breakfast and before bed. Don’t rinse with water.
  • Stop using bottle after eighteen months of age
  • Don’t give bottle at bedtime to babies over twelve months. Give bottle fifteen minutes before bed and brush their teeth before they sleep .
  • Make sure your baby doesn’t bite/suck on bottle teats for prolonged periods.
  • No lollies/chocolates/juices please . Once a while these foods are okay.
  • Regular dental visits are very important
  • Dont add sugar in babies food

I hope you find these tips helpful. Pretty basic though I know but often Overlooked.

Summer weekend in Australia

Finally summers are here or at least I think they are. If you live in Australia you will know what I am talking about. It was a super hot sunny day and by the time we reached the beach it was chilly and windy.🤦‍♀️

I am loving exploring Australia . It’s so beautiful 😍. My son loves the beach . So he waits for the sunny day and early in the morning gets ready by himself so we can go to the beach .

By the time we reached there the water was super cold . But there is no stopping for this little guy. While he was enjoying the water my toddler was crying because he is afraid of water so far.

It got so cold that kids started trembling so we had to wrap up quickly . We made a quick stop on blowhole which was awesome. I wish i didn’t had the migraine attack so I could enjoy more.

The water coming up of the hole was mesmerising. The picture is not showing it’s intensity . My husband was able to see a bystander getting soaked by the water.

At last our trip ended and we headed back to home. Kids were hungry and crying because they refused to eat the food we brought and I got sick 🤢.

So it was my kids crying and hubby had to calm them while driving. He did a good job remaining calm in the chaos . Inside I was laughing he got a little taste of my life 🙈😂.

When we reached home DH had to change my toddlers diaper and cloths because I was not able to do anything . Poor him , he had no idea where kids things are. I had to navigate him by telling but that didn’t helped either so I had to get up and give him everything . Can anyone else relate ??. My hubby is great in cleaning and cooking too but have no clue about kids stuff .

And the best part of the day I get to sleep 😴. I was so drowsy with all the sickness I headed to my bed without doing anything which was good because I totally deserved it 😃😃.

Amma Tips (Totkay)

Amma Tales

The journey of motherhood is full of love, affection, hugs and kisses 😍 ; however to be a realistic it’s rollercoaster ride which bring highs, downs, joy, fear, tears, vomits( by baby mostly) and emotion going on peaks but it worth enjoying. How can you enjoy this rollercoaster ride😎?

Family Tips ( Totkay)

I am mother of 4 kids, their age group ranges from teens to 5 year old. Luckily, I got support from my family’s elder mother which has made it worth enjoying. I wish to have more but my doctor don’t allow this(oops! Tracking off). So I was telling about support I got from my Saas Ami(MIL), my Ami(mother), my bhabis ( sisters in law), nands( my husband’s sisters) and neighborhood. The list is long but I shortened it 😉. But their Totkay (tips) helped me a lot. In start I took them as not worth trying but…

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